Quote
“Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.” -Joel Osteen
Intro
There’s few people who truly understand the impact of words. People have said things to me years ago that have stuck with me to this day. If I were to remind some people of the things they said to me, they’d most likely deny it because they don’t remember and don’t believe they would've said it. This is true for many people. It’s hard to recall compliments and easy to recall negative things that are said. That’s the power of words.
Definition
A single distinct meaningful element of speech or writing, used with others (or sometimes alone) to form a sentence and typically shown with a space on either side when written or printed.
Example
You see your friend with a new pair of shoes. In your opinion, you don’t like the look on them, and say something snide to him. To you, it was just a joke. But for him, he didn’t see it that way. He bought those shoes feeling really confident in the looks of them on him, but after your comment, he leaves them in the back of his closet and never wears them again.
Benefits
It goes without saying that using your words to build someone up is always the wiser choice. Of course, we all have our opinions but if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it. Especially because those who receive hurtful comments tend to hide it all inside. They’ll edit themselves to be more accepted, which could damage them long term. Constructive criticism is one thing, deliberately bashing someone is not.
Change
Recall something you’ve said or say regularly that may affect the mindset of others. Make a mental note on times where it may not be appropriate to share your opinion. Compliment someone one of these days, and notice how joyful it makes you feel. As always, it’s one foot in front of the other and repeat.
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